tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post7917317161962594063..comments2023-07-29T22:48:40.049-07:00Comments on Flying into the Light: Returning to the Nest . . .Sandihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15923693784234135636noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-28200789656865717392012-01-23T03:40:12.591-08:002012-01-23T03:40:12.591-08:00Not so independent then. Perhaps a little too youn...Not so independent then. Perhaps a little too young still?<br />It is her decision and she has made it now; as she feels so much more relieved it is the right one.<br />But it is a shame, young people do eventually settle into new situations, although it takes courage to stick it out.<br /><br />Help her to come to terms with her decision and help her on the way to a different path. It's all a loving mother can do. As you said, you are her friend now, being able to depend on a supportive home life is what she needs for the moment.Frikohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04277167831642088694noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-55954163974189000292012-01-22T11:17:48.765-08:002012-01-22T11:17:48.765-08:00It's a challenge to be just enough help, but n...It's a challenge to be just enough help, but not too much. And to let go of their struggles and realize you've raised them and they will figure it out eventually.Linda Myershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05706455533282204519noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-68097214764579945162012-01-22T09:04:25.571-08:002012-01-22T09:04:25.571-08:00what a wonderful post! agree with all comments. y...what a wonderful post! agree with all comments. you have an amazing daughter. that really couldn't have been and easy decision to make. Sounds like a strong young lady to me It's wonderful to have a home to go home to when the stress of the world is just too much! <br />take care!Hopehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07423174840229628807noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-66482693825284368232012-01-22T05:23:47.716-08:002012-01-22T05:23:47.716-08:00I'm glad she's home and made a good but di...I'm glad she's home and made a good but difficult choice.Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02011480058598809782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-68773087750720422052012-01-22T05:10:08.404-08:002012-01-22T05:10:08.404-08:00Can relate to all this Sandi.
My daughter gets ve...Can relate to all this Sandi.<br /> My daughter gets very homesick in Berlin but has a good job now and is happy with her boyfriend but misses family terribly, and we miss her.<br />I feel for Kailyn. Those choices that are big ones that need to be made can make us lose sleep and appetite, but the relief when both those things return is enormous.<br />I remember being in my early twenties and deciding, after much deliberation, not to return to my first husband and heard my mother talking excitedly on the phone to someone. "It's wonderful" she said. "She's started to eat again."<br />Bon apetit Kailyn!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-10179280205789437552012-01-22T02:49:24.305-08:002012-01-22T02:49:24.305-08:00You don't know how very lonely you were until ...You don't know how very lonely you were until you are with people who love you. I felt lonely traveling around the world alone for 7 years and being single. All that ended when I became a wife and mother. I love my life so much more now.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-67888949722775819982012-01-21T17:55:30.107-08:002012-01-21T17:55:30.107-08:00I can only imagine the relief (physical, emotional...I can only imagine the relief (physical, emotional, and mental) you both must have felt after the decision had been made. Enjoy your time together.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04143179317980103117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-3916086191155236082012-01-21T16:57:22.280-08:002012-01-21T16:57:22.280-08:00Dear Sandi,
This posting says so much about you an...Dear Sandi,<br />This posting says so much about you and Kailyn and your relationship. I am bemused by the wisdom of this sentence: "I am discovering that the less I am needed as a mother, the more I feel wanted as a friend." That must be what most mothers want, and you not only have discovered the words to articulate this hope, but you have experienced it happening. What a blessing the two of you are to one another.<br /><br />Peace.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-87252688929574920372012-01-21T15:55:26.022-08:002012-01-21T15:55:26.022-08:00How proud you must be of your daughter!
How proud...How proud you must be of your daughter!<br /><br />How proud Kailyn must be to have a mother who not only listens to her, and hears not only the words, but also her heart.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-34204778472847175972012-01-21T12:42:05.396-08:002012-01-21T12:42:05.396-08:00I'm so very proud of you both. This is a most ...I'm so very proud of you both. This is a most wonderful story of resilience and listening and love. Strong spirits, tender hearts.Deb Shuckahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03439395710731341021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-48628213348461596962012-01-21T09:07:30.260-08:002012-01-21T09:07:30.260-08:00I admire that you have given Kailyn so much room t...I admire that you have given Kailyn so much room to make this decision on her own. That is such a hard thing to do. I also admire Kailyn for know what she needed to do which was to figure out just what she needed to do. <br /><br />Parenting adult children is a challenge. I think you have written a great introduction on how to do it. Best to both of you as you continue on the journey of understanding and supporting each other in ever changing roles. <br /><br />Thanks for your support of me also. I am slowly beginning to rally. This is a good thing.Sally Wesselyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06470453773515491625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-58657608789280677542012-01-21T06:14:38.295-08:002012-01-21T06:14:38.295-08:00I know when I needed to go home, it was always whe...I know when I needed to go home, it was always where my mother was. That never changed until Mama moved to heaven where I couldn't get "home" to her. I'm so happy that Kailyn is able to regroup and stay "home" for awhile. She spread her wings and I'm sure she learned a lot. You told her story well, Sandi.DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-80300614254492787592012-01-21T06:09:47.729-08:002012-01-21T06:09:47.729-08:00Sometimes it is hard to understand what our childr...Sometimes it is hard to understand what our children are saying to us. I am glad that this all worked out for Kailyn and you are both at peace with her decision. The best is yet to come for her!Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12020604933621899108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-28045585285163034522012-01-21T06:09:01.908-08:002012-01-21T06:09:01.908-08:00She sounds incredible! You should be very proud. S...She sounds incredible! You should be very proud. She really thought it out, wrestled with the decision and now she can move forward. I'm sure she'll have a ton of adventures ahead of her and she did have a great one in France already. You sound like a good Mom...a Mom any girl would love to have. I always laugh when I hear some of our new parents sigh after the birth of their children and say: "whew, the hard part is over"..ha! I always think: "Oh no, that was the easy part, it's the next 30yrs that will be the challenge!"yayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12047536332780197024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-30939597295118403082012-01-20T23:20:07.951-08:002012-01-20T23:20:07.951-08:00Hi, I came to say hello. Seems sweet Dee got us t...Hi, I came to say hello. Seems sweet Dee got us together. :)<br /><br />Sounds to me like Kailyn trusted her own guidance and that she truly gave it her best shot and didn't take the decision lightly. Good for her. Sometimes you have to stand up and be true to yourself no matter what the opposition. A young woman to be proud of. And wise enough to know when a decision wasn't right for her. :)<br /><br />Glad to meet you, Sandi. :)Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02043285884495492598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-91778573469141810522012-01-20T22:38:19.119-08:002012-01-20T22:38:19.119-08:00Beautifully told, Sandi. Kailyn need not regret ha...Beautifully told, Sandi. Kailyn need not regret having made the right decision for her. It's her life and she alone knows what's best for her heart's happiness and ease. Ignore the naysayers who will always step forward to point fingers. Perhaps some of them lack the courage Kailyn has to determine her own path and to know when to bail ship. Big hug for you both. XoxoDesireehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01069419364783245762noreply@blogger.com