tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post754836237578064147..comments2023-07-29T22:48:40.049-07:00Comments on Flying into the Light: Losing ItSandihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15923693784234135636noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-48667762777985650712012-01-18T07:11:22.401-08:002012-01-18T07:11:22.401-08:00We women try so hard to do it all and to be all th...We women try so hard to do it all and to be all things to everybody. Our disappointments in ourselves when we don't live up to our exalted expectatioms can bring us crumbling down. As horrible as that scene may be (we have all been there), it is cathartic and can give us pause to examine our lives and find some satisfaction in the person we are - not perfect - but close enough.<br /><br />You are blessed with a daughter with a beautiful, loving heart. How fortunate you are.Starting Over, Accepting Changes - Maybehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06032033918798053005noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-61272396835425523082012-01-17T16:30:58.275-08:002012-01-17T16:30:58.275-08:00I think all the comments here are so warm and cari...I think all the comments here are so warm and caring and reflect what I'd like to say, but Dee's to me, is particularly apt. Sometimes I think we are own own worst critic, and I often think "would I be that hard on someone else?". I mentioned this concept to my daughter also as part of my mothering technique, and she has been quick to reflect it back to me when I've needed to hear it. She gives wise counsel also.<br />In families we all help each other, that's what we're there for and love puts a big warm blanket over everything. <br />Continue to seek out family and friends who support you (your substitute buddy sounds a gem)and allow others to help. You are doing a great job Sandi.Tears are often a much needed release and who doesn't respect that place when they are shed from a place of genuine pain, sadness or stress.<br />Take care, and step back from the fray when you need to, particularly teaching. It's a hard job.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-74704723373173227942012-01-16T22:23:17.739-08:002012-01-16T22:23:17.739-08:00Life sometimes takes over doesn't it? I think ...Life sometimes takes over doesn't it? I think it's ok to have melt downs occasionally and then as you said pull up our big girl panties and keep going. Don't let yourself get that far gone before you deal with it. I have what my husband calls "Ostrich syndrome." I ignore things until I'm so overwhelmed I crash. You can do this. Admitting it and getting it out there is the first step of taking control BACK. You can do this!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-40145272752733645332012-01-16T16:02:44.118-08:002012-01-16T16:02:44.118-08:00Oh my I get those feelings but never had the idea ...Oh my I get those feelings but never had the idea to put them to words the way you did! You are really trying hard to stay on track. Allowing a moment of comfort from a daughter is the best! Glad I came by to read this 'cause I needed a reminder of how special our girls can be. Thanks. Hope by now you are doing better.Heidrun Khokhar, KleinsteMottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16174142810114806410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-9296623439708955002012-01-16T09:45:29.061-08:002012-01-16T09:45:29.061-08:00I am so proud of you!!!! So glad Jim was there (I ...I am so proud of you!!!! So glad Jim was there (I could hear his voice) - no accident, I'm sure. Take good care of yourself, and continue to let those who love you help out with that as much as possible. I am really envious (and happy for you at the same time) of your relationship with your girls.Deb Shuckahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03439395710731341021noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-16830782168657115202012-01-14T23:07:27.327-08:002012-01-14T23:07:27.327-08:00I came here via DJan's blog and absolutely lov...I came here via DJan's blog and absolutely love your blog! I have already read 3 screenfuls. <br /><br />I don't know why your son committed suicide, but having had a brother die just one month before his 56th birthday was very difficult for me, too, so you have my sympathy. <br /><br />I have a weight problem, also, and have decided to stop falling back on fast-weight-loss diets like NutriSystem. Yes, you do lose a lot of weight quickly. but when you go off the diet, you gain your weight back and then some. I want to lose weight slowly, but still enjoy food. It's not an obsession anymore, to lose weight.<br /><br />I have added you to my blogroll and will visit again. ALOHA FROM HAWAII!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-62981860821026188822012-01-14T17:55:23.845-08:002012-01-14T17:55:23.845-08:00This sounds SOOOOO familiar!! And I really hate wh...This sounds SOOOOO familiar!! And I really hate when people say "Been There Done That." but that's exactly what popped into my head when I read this Sandi. And I too have walked away feeling as though I've learned a lesson! <br />Love Di ♥Dianahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11429812875586479256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-65291148146638942172012-01-14T12:19:34.434-08:002012-01-14T12:19:34.434-08:00I'm glad you are comforted. I hope you have a...I'm glad you are comforted. I hope you have a restful weekend.Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02011480058598809782noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-81558894612321238412012-01-14T06:24:30.266-08:002012-01-14T06:24:30.266-08:00Aren't daughters the best?!?!!!Aren't daughters the best?!?!!!Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04143179317980103117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-57056168023500770082012-01-13T19:52:35.217-08:002012-01-13T19:52:35.217-08:00I'm so sorry you had to go through this, but ...I'm so sorry you had to go through this, but I think you needed to let "it" all out and then begin to put it all back in order. Kailyn sounds like a dream! I'm glad you let her give service in her way to help you cope. Sometimes we forget to let others help. I think when we don't let them do something for us we deny them the blessings that come from giving service. I hope you feel better really soon and just take time this weekend for yourself. All will work out, just give it time.yayahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12047536332780197024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-29780204245632338702012-01-13T17:12:54.303-08:002012-01-13T17:12:54.303-08:00The fact that you allowed yourself to examine what...The fact that you allowed yourself to examine what was happening, and to write it all down, right here in the blogosphere where I can read it, I am just simply overcome with admiration for your tenacity in the face of everything that has confronted you. You may not believe this right now, but you will one day: you are an inspiration to all, every one of us who has been there and found our way back, with the love and help of those who love us.<br /><br />I do hope you will just allow yourself to fall into a place where you are surrounded by love and comfort. Forget about diets, PT, food... your peace of mind is the important thing here. Virtual hugs, Sandi...<br /><br />And thank you for this... it took a lot to write it, I know. And I am thankful you did. :-)DJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07152183871573797791noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-10726312390038218092012-01-13T13:49:28.519-08:002012-01-13T13:49:28.519-08:00Sandi,
When this happens to me--that is, when I fo...Sandi,<br />When this happens to me--that is, when I forget to take care of myself as Susan suggests in her comment--I sit on the couch with a slice of bread with butter on it and feel comfort ease its way around my cells. <br /><br />Then I try to imagine that someone has confided her/his feelings to me in the words that I've been whipping myself with. What would I say to that person? I'd be kind and I'd point out that we are only human and that often times we long for mothering. I'd be so kind. So compassionate. So loving toward that person. I'd befriend that person.<br /><br />And then I realize that the person is me and that I can be this way for and to myself. Please try to be as good to yourself as you would be to Kailyn if she came to you in tears and longing.<br /><br />Peace.Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00612299013780771262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-15807997546733119982012-01-13T12:10:14.851-08:002012-01-13T12:10:14.851-08:00Sandi, that was a great expression of stress hitti...Sandi, that was a great expression of stress hitting and wiping you out. Your daughter was an angel. Take time for your mental health as well as your physical health. As a teacher, I know that I had to do that.Susan Kanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09834094675218254410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8023888201187440830.post-47803294768850007092012-01-13T12:04:18.457-08:002012-01-13T12:04:18.457-08:00Stress gets to all of us at times, especially when...Stress gets to all of us at times, especially when we are not feeling well. I hope this weekend of rest will be a healing time for you.Bethhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12020604933621899108noreply@blogger.com